Im changing my major to Art History, so my big issue is...will I like this career field & will it pay off enough to recoup all the $$ it is taking to go to university????
Coffee House Girl
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What's Your Biggest Issue In Life?
by minimus inmy health is good but i do worry about how the economy affects my income.
you just never know if $$$ comes in or if business is slow.. what's your biggest worry in your life?.
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Got My Nose Pierced Yesterday
by Coffee House Girl inwell since i cant grow a beard, dont have the patience for dread-locks, and do not want anything permanent like a tatoo yet..... i enjoyed the experience, never been in a tatoo parlor, this looks understated, not painful & everyone hates my new nose "glitter" which i find kinda funny.
i don't see it being a permanent thing with me, but i always wanted one, and you never know if you don't try..... just one more step in the independent direction of making my own choices-.
btw i also registered to vote last week!.
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Well since I cant grow a beard, dont have the patience for dread-locks, and do not want anything permanent like a tatoo yet....
I enjoyed the experience, never been in a tatoo parlor, this looks understated, not painful & everyone hates my new nose "glitter" which I find kinda funny
I don't see it being a permanent thing with me, but I always wanted one, and you never know if you don't try....
Just one more step in the independent direction of making my own choices-
BTW I also registered to vote last week!
baby steps....
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End of Pioneer Assist - real reasons?
by freddo ini reckon that the sentence at the start of paragraph two of the letter to elders that says "in view of the good results and for other practical reasons, it is now felt that the pioneer assist others program has accomplished its purpose.
" (italics mine) is legal cya because if a pioneer goofs up and injures (while driving?
) or molests an assistee then there is a direct link to the wts because a pioneer is society appointed.. follow the dollars ....
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The Pioneer Assist program was never effective for me...they always targeted me to be in the program because I was "spritually weak" because I was divorced in Jehovahs Organization...then the pioneers they stuck me with never assisted me with anything....they just made me take the doors and made no coments on how to improve, I always thought it was a joke-and for some stupid reason I always felt too guilty to say no, thinking absurdly that Jehovah was trying to help me....
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Birthdays and Jehovah
by I quit! inmy birthday is coming up next week.
ever since leaving the watchtower i aways do something on or round that day with my sister.
we usually go to lunch and do something like see a movie, play golf, or spend the day at the beach together.
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Happy Birthday !
Mine is next week too & I cannot allow myself too much pomp & circumstance because my mind wont let go of that JW doctrine dribble, I do not know if I will ever get past it all...you live it up for the both of us!
CHG
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At the end of my rope :(
by tec inbut i guess this is my first big rant.. this last year has been the hardest year of my life.
my son tried to kill himself ( he did something pretty bad, got caught, and i guess that's the only way he thought to deal) i am also very close to actually hating my husband, and i do not hate people.
and every decision that i make lately seems to be the wrong one.
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Tammy....(sigh)girl, hang in there...everyone has said what I already wanted to, getting your novel published is a very important accomplishment and you should be very proud regardless of the $$$ results, I hope you can hang on to that pride and write again when it is good for you...
You are the expert in your own life, I have also felt at times that every decision I made was wrong and turned to crap...but you know what is best for you, you said as much in your rant....you may need to break away, you may lose a house (been there, done that...it's just things-things cannot make you happy), you may lose a husband (been there, done that...much better off without him), but whatever you decide- hang on to your support-hold on to your friends
keep posting, were here for you!
CHG
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The spanking room
by dgp ini just got "the spanking room: a child's eye view of the jehovah's witnesses", by william coburn.
the author says that their old kingdom hall didn't have a spanking room, so the spanking took place in the ladies' room.
there was always a line, either for ladies wanting to make use of the toilet the way it was intended to be used, or for ladies waiting their turn to spank their children.
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I remember the back library was used for my spankings- when I grew up my cong. converted a part of the ladies room to a mothers room where mothers could listen to the talks and take their kids back when they cried,
but mostly I saw that being used for young mothers to take sleeping kids back, rock in the rocking chairs, and gossip about other people with the sound turned off....
My mother would proudly tell new moms the story about how she disciplined me when I was a baby, she said I would cry during the meetings...she would stand up to carry me back & I would immediately stop... she knew she couldn't let me win that mind game....so the next time I did it, she took me back and wailed on me....that shut me up
I don't remember that event at all but I hate it when she starts to tell it...
CHG
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Further developments in my JC
by teel inshort review: the elders "invited" me to a friendly chat with 3 elders.
i told them since it's about my official status with jw's i request an official invitation in writing.
they denied it, and went ahead and kept the jc without me, notifying me that i'm df'd and if i want to appeal, send it in writing (btw: .
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Wow, I am really impressed with your style! I am really interested to see how it plays out (even though we know the result is DFing but I wanna read how you handle it all)
I liked the journalist suggestion....
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Hello - I´m new here
by Starfish injust wanted to introduce myself.... .
i am a secret fader but since reading this forum i feel i am alot more confident about telling my family/friends that i don t go to the meetings and inactive.. my hubby is also a fader with me...we kind of drifted after my first baby was born.
she is now 11.. it all started with my mom who started studying with my cousin when i was about 15. while she was studying i also started studying (i was about 16).
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Welcome, thanks for sharing your intro- your expressed happiness at being "out" with your husband and kids does confirm in all us "fader's" minds that we are doing the right thing
I wish I could move away as you have, would make things so much easier...
Thanks for sharing,
CHG
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I need to vent.
by EmptyInside ini needed to post here to vent.
because, the person i really want to give a piece of my mind to is an elder and my, sometimes, self-righteous brother.
twice in my presence, he brought up cases of sisters marrying unbelievers and how they should be "marked" because of marrying outside the "truth".
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lol I quit- well said
I can speak from experience in marrying a JW douche bag which damaged me psychologically, and now with a completely sane non-JW who is trying to heal me and take care of me....
Months back when I was talking with Coffee Shop Guy about my family JW history, he remarked on how many women in my family married non-JW men (my mom, 3 aunts, cousins) and I know you guys are right about the men-women ratio, many depressed women are in the Borg and they are beautiful women who cannot find a decent mate....they age & then when they hit the mid-twenties all the single brothers only want 18-19year olds (who are "spiritual" of course) and they feel like rejected spinsters in the prime of life...
so sad
CHG
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Wish Coffee House Guy safe travels to South Africa!
by Coffee House Girl inmy boyfriend left today for a 17 day trip to johannesburg south africa as part of a charity group to help provide blankets and clothes to people in outlining areas, and give support for aids victims there..... this is the first time we have been apart since september, i miss him already but he is doing so much good and he has such a loving heart.
i love you baby, come back to me safe .
chg.
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Thank you all for your sentiments, I will pass them on.... I am so very proud of him, this is a very good thing he is doing, we agreed that next time, I get to go with him...we do not like being apart so long
Yes Think About It- you have us right, he is the love of my life, 22 years older than me...and I would have never had the privelege of being a friend of his being trapped in the borg of "conditional friendships".
LouBelle- awww you are a sweetheart, I will ask CSG if the Durbs are in his plan- he will have a free day to go shopping in the markets & explore!
CHG